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My Parents Made Me Executor: Part 1

My Parents Made Me Executor: Part 1

| October 20, 2023

Losing a loved one, especially a parent, is a deeply emotional experience. It can be particularly challenging when your parents have entrusted you with the role of executor for their estate. In this trying time, allowing space for your own grief is essential. Simultaneously, taking proactive steps to gather information about their estate, understand their wishes, and engage in thoughtful planning can significantly ease the process, making it less overwhelming.

Engaging in open conversations with your parents about end-of-life decisions and estate management can provide peace of mind for everyone involved as they approach their final years. These discussions allow you to gain insight into their desires and preferences, helping ensure their wishes are honored.

We've created this step-by-step guide to help you navigate the complexities of planning your parent's estate. 

Understand Assets and Liabilities 

Begin by gathering a comprehensive understanding of your parent's financial landscape. Create a net worth statement that details all their assets and liabilities, such as bank accounts, investments, debts, and properties. This statement will serve as a roadmap for your estate management journey.  Include the financial institution's general information and the name, email, and phone number of the personal bankers or account managers familiar with your parent's accounts. A helpful resource to assist you in getting started with this is a Personal Letter of Direction.

Record current assets and balances on debts. Putting it all in a simple spreadsheet makes it easy to manage and helps you deal with each account after your parents pass and keep things sorted out. If they had a bunch of different bank accounts, think about putting them together into just one or two banks. Centralizing funds can make things easier later on when you're handling everything.

Review and Understand the Will

Obtain a copy of your parent's will and carefully read through it. Engage in conversations to ensure you comprehend their wishes and intentions. Ensure that the legal language in the will aligns with your parent's wishes. The document ultimately holds precedence over conversations and less legally binding documents.

Once the will is created, it's time for a family to discuss their wishes and plans. Open communication with other beneficiaries and people who care about your parents can minimize confusion and disagreements after their passing. If health allows, have your parent write a statement of intent that can be openly shared with loved ones and clarify their wishes. 

Seek Professional Advice

Enlisting the help of an experienced estate advisor can alleviate confusion and provide valuable insights. CPAs with extensive estate experience can also assist with tax planning, ensuring you maximize benefits while managing potential tax obligations effectively.

If your parent resides or owns property in a different state, hiring a local attorney familiar with that state's probate laws is essential. Establishing this connection before your parents pass makes later conversations simpler.

Consider a Revocable Trust

Managing cash immediately after your parents pass can be challenging, and your parents may want to add you to their accounts as a co-owner. While this simplifies bill paying, it also adds complications When you co-own an account with your parent, you legally own half the value of that asset. If the will stipulates giving some or all of those funds to other beneficiaries, you may cause gift tax issues for you and your family. 

Instead of co-ownership, consider trusts that offer tax advantages and controlled distribution of assets. A revocable trust is treated like a checking account during your parent's lifetime, and once they pass, it becomes irrevocable, with you as the trustee. This can simplify estate management without making it harder for your parents to make purchases and pay bills.

Secure Passwords and Login Information

Ensure you have access to your parent's online accounts, including emails, social media, and automatic subscriptions. Consider using secure online password systems, like LastPass, for better data security and ease of access.

If your parents have multiple emails, linking as many accounts as possible to a single email account is helpful. Social media accounts typically require separate emails, but bank, retirement, and benefit accounts can be linked to a single email address. This will make it easier for you to access the logins and reduce the chance of getting locked out of crucial accounts. 

Pre-Plan Funeral Arrangements

Though it can be emotionally difficult, pre-planning funeral arrangements can significantly reduce the stress and decisions that must be made immediately after your parent's passing. Discussing burial plots, headstones, and funeral preferences can also prevent conflicts among family members with different opinions about how your parents would like to be remembered.

Asking your parents if they want donations sent to a favorite organization in lieu of flowers, who they want to speak at their funeral, and how they want to be remembered helps soothe a grief-filled season.

Navigating the complexities of managing your parent's estate requires careful planning, open communication, and professional guidance. By following these steps and taking the time to understand their wishes, you can honor your parent's legacy and ensure a smoother transition during this challenging time.

Confidently Plan Your Parent’s Estate with Bestgate Wealth Advisors

Our team, composed of experienced CPAs and CFP® practitioners, is here to help you make more informed decisions. Contact us today to get assistance with your parent’s estate.